Everyone always talks about what things they are going to do in the New year, but it is never anything that will make them a better wholesome person. It is always something like losing as much weight as they can, wear less black, or travel more. I used to be one of those people, always trying to change something physical about myself. Trying to achieve something that will make me fit that mold of pretty that I had in my mind. But this year it will be different this year I want to learn to love the body that I’m in rather than change it. It is much easier to decide to love what you have rather than try to change yourself entirely. Why should I change my loud and proud personality in order too impress my peers? Why should I change my body to look more like a Victoria’s secret model when I could just like it the way it is? Why should I put myself through the hurt of not loving myself when I don’t have to fit anyone else’s image of myself?
New years isn’t some magical portal that changes all of us and cleanses us of all the things of the previous year. The New Year is literally just our calendar resetting itself so that all of our holidays can be around the same time every year. Time doesn’t magically reverse. You aren’t going to magically be able to forget your last relationship or the way you were hurt in the past 365 days. There is no magical solution for your problems, and the new year especially isn’t going to magically wash your fears and worries from you hair. The only thing or event on this earth that can help you heal is you adoring and loving yourself. Though that concept may seem very hard for so many people it is easier than it may come across as. Loving yourself is a step by step process and you have to come to the conclusion of why you deserve to be happy. We all deserve to be happy but we each have our own different reason to be just that. Don’t let a New year’s resolution decide where you will be in the new year, don’t let a figure created to keep us on track decide what you will do. There should no longer be a such thing as ‘New Year, New Me’. A new year shouldn’t make you into a new person, your desire for healing and progression should be what makes you want to cleanse and become new. 2017 is a year of many things for me, I have so much that I want to heal and accept about myself. I may always preach as to why others deserve to be happy but it should be made clear that I am still on a journey to better understand myself and to find my own happiness.